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   The Happiness Theory The Happiness Theory Everyone wants to be happy, because happiness affects all the activities of your life. Mostly, when you are happy, it reflects in your work as well. Your performance remains at its peak when you are happy at work. On the other hand, when you are under stress or anxiety, your performance is affected. So, your happiness is directly connected to your performance. Even if you are pursuing activities like writing, painting, etc., happiness still affects the quality of the results. So, being happy is important. So I have created a Happiness Model which can improve your overall happiness proportion in your life.   The Triangle of Enduring Happiness Happiness is an inner aspect of the body, but it depends on some external factors. So, I have created this triangle of happiness, which has 3 main vertices: Health, Work, and Connections. These three vertices can have a great influence on the happiness of any person. There can be some...

 The Golden Rule of Communication According to the Businessman Henry Ford, Success is lies in the ability to understand other’s point of view and see things from that persons angle as well as your own” ___ As a human we always want to feel important , Let’s starts with the simple example. When the sales person shows how his product solve our problem then there is no need to sell the product to us, we buy this product, because customers like to feel that they are buying and not being sold to . So when you have to build a cooperation with peoples then always think what they want, don’t showcase what you know. This rule is also applicable in communication. Often, we see peoples get irritate when someone only keep focusses on themselves in communication and people prefer someone who always believes in two way communication, the one who listen and respond. Just like, fisherman who may love ice cream but he still has to use worm to attract fishes. If you can learn to understand o...

    Hello all, In this specific post we will focus on the most important issue, everyone suffered at least once in a lifetime, and that is, the anxiety of staying on your decision during initial phase. So, let’s start with the practical example, jay is someone who is working in sales from last few years And he always wants to start his own business to use his own skills in his business. But every time when he decided to start, he fails, every time he got the reason, to delay or can say every time he finds new reason to not starts with his decision. So actually, this is not applicable for jay only, its applicable for everyone at least once in a lifetime but why such kind of dilemma happens and what is the reasons behind it. Mostly the reason behind it is, our brain resist change or can say consider the change as threat, another reason is the anxiety during initial phase. So can we deal with it, there are so many ways are there but today we will explore one practical metho...

    The D Technique of Execution : The Proven Method of Turning Desire into Achievement. In today’s world where competition presents everywhere, setting a small goals and getting them completed on time is very important. The world is changing rapidly and we also need to change with world. Whether you are a student or a working professional, learning new things is very important. When you are a student learning is your first responsibility whereas when you are a working professional you have to manage your learning parallel with your work, whether it's related to your current work or switching to new work. So it’s very important to learn the technique which can turn your desire into achievement. So let’s start with an example, ‘ABC’ is a working professional who is working in the same organization from so many years but not getting happiness while doing his work. he is working on autopilot mode means following the same rituals every day. He is good at his work, but sufferin...

So, what success and happiness means to you,    Every has the different answer for this question, some might be thinks that, this two things are interconnected like happiness is next step after getting the success whereas some might be thinking that success is totally different phenomenon than happiness, some might have thought that happiness is a journey and success is the destination. Success and happiness are related in some cases, but they are not the same thing. Success is often defined as achieving a specific goal or reaching a certain level of wealth, fame, or status. Happiness, on the other hand, is a subjective emotional state of well-being. Ultimately, the relationship between success and happiness depends on how an individual defines these terms and what they prioritize in their life. For some people, success is a crucial part of their happiness, while for others, happiness is the ultimate goal, regardless of external measures of success.  So lets go inside int...

The Real Distraction: So what is distraction?  There are so many definitions are there for distraction as well as, so many peoples observed there own form of distraction on the basis of there own experience in their life. so lets simplify, distraction. In simple, "the resistance which hold peoples from achieving their goals or increasing their time to achieve their goals, is what we can consider distraction" There are again so many from of distractions, varies from people to people. So on the basis of my experiences, i come up with the new definition, "Distraction is the inclination of choices towards the information or content which is either informative or entertaining but irrelevant to your goal in a given time." Our current phase of life is the accumulation of various small events that have happened  as well as small goals we have accomplished in the past. So success is the result of so many factors like hard work, consistency, etc but focus is one of the most ...

How to deal with the unfavourable situation when you can not win the situation. Once a farmer from the small village goes to the farm as he regularly does. Start doing his daily tasks. He has daily practice for his regular tasks. Latter when the sun reaches the centre the weather started changing, within a moment the speed of the wind starts increasing. The farmer analysed that these are the signals of the storm and he start going towards the support. But within a short period, the storm hits the farm and the wind speed increases tremendously, the farmer reached the place where he only has the support of one big tree. He stands near the tree and grabs the tree by hand. The wind speed increases to the optimum level where everything becomes invisible due to the dust in the air. The farmer saw this but he never fears the storm and he confidently grab this tree. Latter after a few minutes, the storm slows down and the wind speed starts decreasing, within a couple of minutes the wind speeds...

The Wet Clothes Theory Yesterday when I was on beach, observed one thing, when my friend was sitting on the beach so much sand stick to his clothes. Then when he walk for while in sunlight most of the sand goes down. The clothes becames the same as they were earlier. So the sand stay on the clothes when the clothes were wet and get removed when the cloths becomes dry.            Same thing happen with our mind too. In one day we come across various ups and downs moments. So many events are truly painful and some are full of happiness too. But when we are in stress or anxiety, negative thoughts start sticking to our mind. The stressful situation is the best place for negativity. When we become negative we start thinking negative, becomes pessimistic about the future, loose confidence, etc. And when we overcome this phase of anxiety, we come to the normal state. "The negativity only stay when we are in stress". As we overcome this stress we also g...

5 reasons that makes you to lag in life. Everyone Wants to lead in life but how someone leads if he do not have any idea about lagging. So to lead in life properly, requires a skill to understand what could make us to lag, so that we can lead by overcoming them.  This theory is important in life because on every step of life there are certain actions which becomes beneficial and put certain positive change in life means lead our ourselves in life and there are certain actions which becomes harmful and we lag due to those actions.  In this post we are going to put certain insights on those factors which are harmful and may restrict our growth with the solution to deal with them.  1. Living life completely on the other's suggestions. On every step of life we met peoples who provide us various suggestions. So many of this suggestions are beneficial too. But it's not necessary to stay depends on others suggestions because no one can predict our life better than ou...

The Happiness Acquisition.   Today when I woke in the morning feels somehow lazy but then back to track and started thinking about the question, whether am I happy with what I am doing, the mind started wandering for the answer but what I realise is that life is not completely happy or completely unhappy. Life is the aggregation of both happy and unhappy moments. I just go deep in the ocean of thoughts for this question then I reached at the bottom of the ocean, that happiness is the product of your perspective process. Your perspective matters more in choosing happiness or being unhappy . Like most of the people feels their present suffering as motivation and reached at their goal and becomes happy on the other hand some of them feels suffering as pain and stuck in the thought that why they are facing this suffering. So perspective is the the key element of choosing happiness or being unhappy. happiness is the choice and not a gift. We have to choose happiness over any circu...

Failure is the part of life. Most of the time we face failures and with every failure we learn something new which we had unaware about earlier. The most important thing which we have been gifted from the failure is Experience. And that experience becomes the advantage for the next attempt. So that failure is a key element of any journey.  So Failure is beneficial for us but the most important part is how we bear that failure. Most of the time our confidence level hamper due to that failure. At that moment what actually required is positive approach towards failure. If we can do so then this failure becomes treasure for us.  The FLC Theory "Failure is prerequisite but If we have failure then we should remain optimistic for the gift of lessons."  Today competitions are at the top, we need to hustle more for results. In that case the better preparation becomes very important but with that better preparation we should keep some room for failure too. So to get succeed in any ...

The simple and familiar hacks to get rid of overthinking * Acceptance * Accept it, that your thinking more about something. Everyone is going through this phase. Once you accept the reality, would help you to start work on this. *Deep Breathe * After accepting, start deep breathing. the deep exhaling and inhaling would help you to provide enough oxygen to your brain. It's also normalised the heart bit. *Write it down * The thoughts are feel more powerful when this are in your mind. so write them on paper. The thoughts present in our mind get clarity when we put them on paper and once they appear on paper, their influence reduces too.. *The Root Cause* Once you write on paper you will feel better. then start to find the root cause of this thoughts. once you found the root cause, you can understand why this thought emerge in your mind? This would help you to permanently get rid of this thoughts.

The small wins in life... Everyone in this world has his race. Everyone Playing their own game in their life.  But when we started working on any project, it takes a certain time for completion. And it's very important to stay on this path up to the end with the same enthusiasm. So what makes us enthusiastic on the path? The small wins... when we started working on any goal, we started from small then, divide this goal into small tasks and start completing those tasks. With every task we got a small win, we should celebrate this small win to get motivated for the next task of the journey. These small wins also boost confidence Which became helpful latter.  The same scenario happens in our daily life. we are going through so many small tasks from waking up to sleep. The same pattern we have to use in our daily life. If we exercise in the morning we should celebrate this, this becomes the motivation for the next day. The same thing happens with every activity.  If we b...

5 Skills for making conversation effective.  As we know the need for better communication is  much important for better networking in society. with this soul purpose, we have started this session regarding communication. 2 Parts are already covered and this is going to be the third one. So what next? Certain skills could make the conversation effective and these skills are very important to learn to make our conversation meaningful and effective.  5 Skills for making conversation effective.  1. Listening As we know communication is a two-way process so speaking as well as listening is also important. The art of listening is somehow more important than speaking. The quality of listening built trust in the conversation. When we listen carefully the next person believes that we have an positive interest in the conversation and then he can open up more in the conversation . Also, it becomes useful to us to analyse what to speak next. 2. Body Language This is ...

Introduction to effective conversation       (Part-2) 3 P of effective conversation   Effective communication is the only way to convey your message properly. It is very important to convey your message to the next person in the correct form. so while doing this, even small things can play a vital role in communication. Not only words can make an effective conversation but our style of speaking, the posture of the body have also play an important role. We will take this topic in the next part.  One person in the whole day is going through different situations. Whether he is a student, employee or businessmen the situations are different for different peoples.  So does it possible to follow the same pattern of communication in all situation?  Absolutely 'No' So we have to understand the 3P of effective conversation. This 3P will help you to make your conversation meaningful.  So let's start 1. Place The first P of effective convers...

Introduction to Effective Conversation                             The importance of communication is very high as human is a social individual. Communication is a very important tool to express ourself. Communication is a key factor for better networking in society. In every walk of life communication plays a vital role, Whether it is doing startup, job, education, business or meeting with new people in our day to day life. So effective communication is prerequisite to make network with peoples. We cannot established a better communication  without effective conversation so effective conversation is key element of communication.  Why we have to make effective conversation. As we know growth is the most important requirement for everyone in todays time. And we can make better growth strategies if we surround ourselves with great peoples. So communication is the better strategy to get great people in our...

Keys to Design a Great life, "Our life is all about choices me make, decisions we take and habits we have pursuing" All the above keys are what we called hidden keys to design a great life. We underestimate those things but eventually this are the factors which would produce an major influence in life.  "Choices" Our day to day choices built our personality. And our choices can make a big change in our life. Everyday we have the opportunity to choose something, then its our responsibility to choose wisely. we can divide our choices into productive and unproductive choices. The choices which have a benefits to career, health, finance, etc are what we called a productive choices instead of that the choices which are time consuming and will not having any benefit In future are what we called a unproductive choices.  We have to take record of our daily choices then we we can easily divide them in productive and unproductive choices. But the need is record of...

"The Details Dilemma"                    Yesterday when woke up in morning and pick my mobile phone, got list of notifications which includes the social media notifications, mails, etc. I had been little bit confused while checking those notifications. And the most important fact is spend my valuable morning time in that work. Some of the notifications are actually important like some mails, messages  but some of them was just the response of peoples on my previous social media post. Then I started reading comments on that social media post, again some of the comments are positive and some are negative.  Then read one book summary on internet and latter keep my phone aside and started my day. In both of the cases like reading the social media comments and reading book summary the basic difference was, when we read social media comments and mostly negative we started comparing ourself with others and in another case while readin...

"Process is always superior over Product" First blogpost in the new year, so need something which will be very useful for whole year and what is it ?  The mindset ,  So this blogpost is going to build the mindset or can say resolution for new year... Everyone Have certain goals, and everyone have some roll models regarding that goal who have reached to that place. And this is great to have a goal and to have a roll model. But what people saw in roll model, is his success, How he is living his success and slightly avoid to understand the process of, how he became successful.  "When we saw dream we should think about the system of achieving that dream rather than completion of dream or results after achieving that dream"  Process is always superior over product.... Everywhere we see success stories, the successful life, the fame after success, the wealth after success and mostly people stuck themselves in that confusion. Either they started thinking about ...

"Failure Mindset" When we heard success stories,  what we understand ?  The journey of success. The most important quality which everyone tells, is hardwork. And surely hardwork is truly the most important quality, but how much hardwork and how long are the most important question. Any way, this is another topic and mostly  "How much hard work required is depends upon the size of the goal and the process of achieving the goal" As we know the continues hardwork is always the need of getting something achieved amd while achieving something, failure is inevitable. Its not sure that we get everything done in first attempt. So the most important quality which plays an significant role in achieving any goal is Persistence .  "Failure is a significant part of any success journey and to persist on that journey is the vital need."  Single defeat does not denote the complete failure. Failure is a great teacher which teaches the lesson which will became h...